If you would like me to be a reference, you must send me an email allowing me to share your private information with others. It should include the following: To: Dr. Carol Zander From: Date: I allow Dr. Zander to discuss my grades and anything related to my academic performance in a conversation, by email, or in a letter of reference for me. I allow her to discuss characteristics relevant to my success for an industry job, an internship, or application to graduate school.